2 Inches and 90 Seconds

There I was lying on her bed not even watching the movie I brought over and actually expected us to watch. We had been making out but now most of her clothes were off and I was dining at the Y. Then she flips the script and puts herself on top of me. Sliding down between my legs, she gets the belt, button, zipper, and takes everything down with one tug. She looks as I stand at attention, then looks up at me and says, “my ex-boyfriend was wayyyyy bigger than that.” What can I say? I’m not 10+ inches straight from the Motherland like her ex who also couldn’t make her cum. But I made her cum, with my mouth, my tongue, my fingers, on top, from behind, against the wall, in the air, clitoral, g-spot, squirting, and multiples. I made her cum until she was sore and couldn’t cum anymore. But I never told her when I went down on her that first night that I saw a gaping black hole. Or how the position she liked where I modified missionary to put her legs together was to get sensation because I couldn’t make contact with her sidewalls. What can I say, size is important. I was conversing the other day, freak to freak, with a Leo friend who enjoys watching herself have sex in the mirror. :-) Anyways, we had been discussing size and how she had to stop fucking one guy else “he’d ruin [her] for all other men”. She also shared her experiences that “big dick is lazy dick”. Most women I talk to admit it’s the motion that matters more. It seems similar to very attractive women or women with nice curves who often let their bodies do the work and don’t put in much effort. They are sexually lazy. Still there are certain things you can’t do with certain sizes just as the look of a woman or feel of her curves cannot be substituted. I’m not saying it can’t be good. The summation of everything is what determines if it’s quality. Besides, everyone is different and likes different things. I don’t aspire to be the best. Every woman decides for herself what is best. Where my ex saw my diminutive size, the nearly 40-something Jamaican used to sit there and stare, trying to figure out how my motion allowed me to hit the spot only her 9+ inches ex-boyfriend used to hit. The nearly 40-something Brasilian used to complain I could go “deep and slow” or “short and fast” but not “deep and fast” because it made her bleed. More than one girl has confessed that she expected me to be small and ended up pleasantly surprised. It’s on everyone’s mind the same way men wonder how a woman’s naked breasts are gonna look, what kind of nipples does she have, is her clit an innie or an outie, does she have a pretty one, how good is her technique, and will she spit or swallow. However, boastful arrogance is unattractive. Ever notice how most boasters never live up to their billing of how good they portray themselves to be? They talk themselves up and it’s just pure let down. Well after I moved past the mental block my ex gave me over my own size, I started to flirt with prospective partners that I was “the best 2 inches and 90 seconds they never had”. I even used to say I would understand if they didn’t want to have sex, which is precisely why I wanted to warn them ahead of time. What I was not so subtly doing was lowering their expectations. If I were honest and told them I was 6-7 inches and possessed the control to cum on demand but preferred to last about 90 minutes with at least 20 minutes of foreplay, they may either not believe me or levy such high expectations that even I could never meet. While I have definitely gotten better with age, the equipment performed for a longer duration and more frequently when I was younger. I don’t start to hit my real stride until about the 10th time we do it when I become more familiar with her and what she likes. But it’s easy to take a wrong step before then and never get to 10. That handful of women I did get past 10 with, we became much more emotionally involved and there still exists an ease and familiarity with each other today even though the sex has ceased. Sex is always better with someone you really care about because it’s much more meaningful. When you truly love someone, you don’t count the orgasms, need to do the crazy positions, or levy these expectations. It has to be good enough to satisfy your desire to fully give of yourselves, unite, and enjoy the ride. Otherwise, if it’s not love then 2 inches and 90 seconds simply isn’t going to get the job done. *Originally posted on Lovemionline.com on March 22, 2010. http://www.lovemionline.com/index.php/RuMANating-Intercourse/penis-size-sex.html